5 WAYS TO NURTURE FRIENDSHIP THIS VALENTINE’S DAY

Whether you are single or have a significant other, Valentine’s Day can be a great opportunity to celebrate your friendships. For many women, Valentine’s Day is more than just flowers, chocolate, and a romantic dinner. It celebrates the significant and meaningful relationships in our lives. This includes our girlfriends. No one understands us like our BFF. The compassion we feel can extend beyond our mates to our close friends and relatives too!

While it’s always nice to have someone plan a romantic evening for us, Valentine’s day can celebrate the depth of love and affection in any relationship. This year, perhaps, you will celebrate “Galentine’s” Day! February 14thoffers a perfect opportunity to show our friends some affection and quality time. Just like any other relationship, even the closet of friendships need to be nurtured. Here are 5 ways to nurture your friendships this Valentine’s Day:

  1. Plan a girl’s night in. Valentine’s Day can be filled with couples going out. However, you can plan a night for just the girls to stay in. Take the time to make the arrangements, order food or cook, plan to watch an empowering girls flick such as Pride and Prejudice or her favorite movie.
  2. Say it with words of affection or affirmation. For instance, take the time to call her. In our busy lives today, with text messages and social media we don’t often connect anymore. Take a few moments to call and let your friends know you are grateful for them.
  3. Give her a “just because” gift. Something that says, I was thinking of you. For example, pick something that is specific to your relationship with her. Send her a photo of the two of you or get her a tickets to see a movie or concert together.
  4. Send her a “just thinking of you card.” Write a personalized note. Remind her of the wonderful times you have together, the things you value about the friendship. Valentine’s gives you a license to be a little more affectionate in any relationship than usual
  5. Give her the gift of quality time. Many of us say “We will get together” or “Let’s make plans” and don’t follow through. As our lives get busier we tend to neglect our friendships and this is one of the main reasons for lost friendships. Make actual plans and keep them, even if it’s just a quick cup of coffee or a meeting at her place.

Good friends are hard to come by. When you value and nurture the friendships you have they will last you a lifetime. Valentine’s Day is an annual reminder to show celebrate our relationships and gratitude for our girlfriends. “Friendships don’t magically last forty years …you have to invest in them.” – Carrie Bradshaw-Sex and the City

Article originally written for The Lady Project in February 2018.

IS SOCIAL MEDIA DAMAGING YOUR ROMANTIC RELATIONSHIP?

As we are surfing through our own newsfeeds on Facebook, Instagram, Flickr, etc, most of us have a tendency to compare our own lives to what we are seeing. Many couples I work with in counseling often talk about how social media is causing problems in their relationships. It’s not uncommon for one partner in a relationship to feel the other spends too much time on social media. A common topic I hear is that one partner feels jealous the relationship isn’t as romantic as what they see online. Or one partner begins to have doubts about their relationship because they appear to fight more than what they see online.

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