Saying, “I’m just impulsive” to justify acting out is just an excuse. It is a way to not take ownership of your own behaviors.
It’s like saying, “just like to be alone” to justify isolation or “I’m just a messy person” to justify not cleaning or doing chores.
However, there are skills that you can learn and actions that you can take to change your behaviors. You are not powerless!
And at Mindful Healing, while we believe that you’re doing the best you can at any given moment, we also believe that you can improve, be more skillful and make better choices.
Often times emotional teens act without thinking. Teens tend to think about what they want in the moment and don’t always think about all the consequences.
In fact, this happens a lot with teens in general. The pre-frontal cortex the area of the brain that controls reasoning and decision making isn’t fully formed until approximately age twenty-six.
So making effective decisions takes some effort.
Your teen needs to learn and practice skills so they don’t respond in an instant to intense emotions…
and self-harm, or lash out, or refuse to go to school, or cave to peer pressure, etc.
We’ve see teens act impulsively all the time in order to avoid intense emotions.
And we’ve heard the response “I’m just impulsive” many times, as I am sure you have. But this is not an excuse. They CAN improve.
It’s time to stop blaming lacking skills as personality traits and own the responsibility to do the work to improve.
Because we know you can.
Because we believe in you.
Are you ready to believe in you too?