Very often teens do not want to admit to themselves that they cannot manage their own lives. Often, they are unaware of the full consequences of their actions. As parents it is difficult to be the “bad guy,” but underneath it all that is what your teen needs to feel emotionally safe. Teens need limits and someone to help them find boundaries when they don’t know where they are. The last thing they want to do is admit to a parent that their concerns may be valid. In fact, as a therapist, I have had teens say to me, “Don’t tell my mother I said that. I don’t want her to know she is right.” It may take a while for them to fully engage in therapy and that is okay.