What’s Your Real Problem?

I get calls from concerned parents all time. They are worried about the behaviors their kids are engaging in. What parent wouldn’t be concerned if they see their child struggling? Maybe your teen is avoiding school because they are anxious. Maybe your child is in college and drinking and partying too much led to them not returning for second semester. Maybe your teen is isolating or self-harming. Regardless of the behavior, I have to tell you, the behavior is NOT the problem, it is the SOLUTION.

I know, you probably think I am crazy at this point, but just keep reading. The problem is that they lack coping skills! Your kids don’t know how to feel intense or difficult emotions and they don’t have any real coping skills to manage them in the moment.

So, what do they do? They find another way. The “solution.” For each child, teen, or young adult (and let’s be real some of us as well), this might look different, but the concept is the same. They are all managing their feelings or essentially avoiding their feelings because they don’t know what else to do!

GOOD NEWS, There is a better way! 

There are coping skills that very effectively help teens learn to manage their feelings in the moment! Your teen can learn them today! You can learn them too and how to help your teen put them into practice on a regular basis. Any day now you can be on your way to having a happier healthier teen.

We help your teen envision a life worth living and imagine that they can be in control of their emotions. We help them to identify what their current behaviors are doing for them and teach them how coping skills can help them reach their same goals without the negative consequences (such as shame).

Sound good? Schedule your free 15-min phone strategy session to learn more about how coping skills to help you and/or your teen start the year off right!

HOW TO FIND THE RIGHT THERAPIST FOR YOU

At this point in your life you’ve probably bought your own car, moved into your own place, applied for university, consulted with a medical professional, and/or bought a house. I’m sure these weren’t impulsive decisions either. You probably did some research. You likely didn’t just go to the first dealership you saw and spend tens of thousands of pounds on any vehicle in the lot. Moreover, you probably didn’t take out a mortgage on a house without getting pre-approved by a bank, having a survey done, etc. These decisions and investments were most likely well-thought-out.

Fast forward to today, and you have decided to invest in yourself and consult a therapist to help you with your life goals or quality of life. How do you know the right therapist to hire for you? Is he or she a “therapist-centered” or a “client-centered”? How do you know what either of these looks like?

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